At one point in life I was lost. Some can call it I was stuck. I was in a race with million and even billions of other people in this planet. I was luckier and ahead of at least 80% of these people by the standards of the society. From outside, I was in a perfect place. I was happily  married, I had two kids, I was healthy, everyone around me was healthy, I was well educated, I had a great job and an amazing paycheck. If you are thinking that I was not having a life, I should say that you guessed it wrong. I actually was a social butterfly and had a pretty amazing social life.

I can see that you are scratching your head and asking: Then what was your problem?

I am going to push you a little further before I spill out the answer. After all, we are designed to value the hard earned lessons and rewards more than the easy prizes falling on our laps.

Think about yourself: Where are you at with your life? Are you feeling happy? Do you feel you are where you want to be? Do you feel you are happy or do you feel obligated to say that you are happy in fear of jinxing what you have?

Be honest with yourself.

This is the role #1 we need to follow in this book together.

Go to the nearest mirror. You can go to the bathroom and close the door. If you are a parent with young kids and have lost the meaning of privacy in your life, don’t worry. You can download a mirror app from the app store on your phone and use that.

Look inside that mirror.

Who do you see? 

I know that you see yourself. But the question I am asking you is: Do you enjoy what you see? Do you recognize these eyes, these wrinkles, this smile, this body, this image? Do you feel connected to this image?

Can you look at yourself with no judgments? Can you honestly look into the mirror and not letting stories come to your head?

I give you examples of these stories: “Oh my gosh! I look old“. Or you might think: “When did I get this much gray hair? Kids. All this yelling at them has made my hair gray”. Another favorite one is: “Why am I losing weight in my face only? I wish my body would lose that weight. It is because my metabolism is too slow or look at what all these bear drinking is doing to me.”

There is no end to these stories and judgements when you take a peak in the mirror. It is such a revealing moment.

And the biggest news I have for you: It feels like you have not seen yourself for ages!

Granted, you live in this body. This face is serving you every day of your life. Yet, you feel so estranged from the whole thing at this moment. Isn’t that strange?

As these words and this little trip to the mirror is taking you to quite a journey,  I am going to break another news to you.

When you look at your eyes in the mirror, how do you feel?

Do you feel true happiness in them? Are they satisfied? Are they hiding something from you? If you want to be honest with yourself, can you even handle looking at yourself in the mirror?

I bet you that many people can not even handle looking at themselves through this perspective.

I can even promise you that a good majority of people reading these pages will get discouraged to read further.

WHY?

Because this simple exercise of looking into your soul through your own eyes is scary as hell. Facing your emotions and the truth of how you feel is hard and frightening. Living under the Facade of: All is fine, I am fine is much easier . It is easier but not more enjoyable. That is the tricky part about human soul.

If you are still brave enough to look inside that mirror and read these words, I am going to ask you again:

Are you feeling happy? Is this happiness you feel when you probe yourself in the mirror? Is joy flooding into your heart or are you filled with all sorts of questions?

The chances are high that you do not feel that happy even though everything might be fine. It is very likely that you are confused as why this is the case. You scratch your head and think:

“Why? What is wrong with me?”

That is how I felt. That is where I was.

The good news is that you are not alone. Many many people are in the same boat as you. That is why I call this common humanity.

The GREAT news is that you are brave enough to read up to here and even stay with this question and not dismiss it.

The not so great news is that we are about to shatter your world into million pieces in these pages. I am going to break that bubble of false safety in a very cruel way for you. The way that you will feel the emptiness in your bone and your core and that will prompt you to change dramatically in your life.

And the silver lining is that we are in it together. I have gone through this path myself and have taken many people feeling the same way as you do through this journey with me.

They all felt lost or stuck. They knew they wanted some sort of change but did not know what that means and how that looks like. We went on a journey together and guess what: We all came out of the other side stronger and happier.

We all were able to look in the mirror and see a genuine smile on our faces.

That is my promise to you in this book. I walk you through my own story, cases from my clients, and how we managed to get to that space.

Now, that you are willing to take a PAUSE from your fast paced life and read this book, I want to give you hope and show you that true feeling of happiness and satisfaction in life is POSSIBLE.